Cruel intentions

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My first thought, when I read about Lisa Hayden-Johnson was that she must be suffering from Munchausen's by Proxy. No one could possibly be that cruel to their own child that they would deliberately exploit them in exchange for benefits, awards, free holidays and the chance to meet celebrities, surely.

But actually, Hayden-Johnson isn't suffering from a mental disorder. Like the hideous Karen Matthews, she is greedy and heartless and out for herself. She saw an opportunity and decided to exploit it. It was all about the freebies, and sadly, this probably tells us more about our society than we could ever wish to know. When medical professionals tried to intervene, she told them that she would 'sue' and claimed to be a nurse. This was someone who knew how to play the system.

'Mothers' who see their kids as commodities are guilty of child abuse – even if there are no physical scars, the emotional trauma may never go away. My heart goes out to that little boy and I just hope that he is able to recover from the betrayal he suffered at the hands of the woman who was supposed to love and protect him.

written by Liz Jarvis


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14 Responses to Cruel intentions

  1. Very Bored in Catalunya says:

    That’s the first time I’ve seen this story and OMG. It breaks my heart that someone could even think of using their child for financial gain, let alone subject them to six years of torment. Can’t believe she only got 39 months. At least the boy will have a chance now, hope a lovely family get to adopt him so he can see how parents are supposed to behave toward their children.

  2. Insomniac Mummy says:

    My first thought was that she must have Munchausen’s by Proxy too. It’s shocking that she was using her child in such a horrible way. I read that he still believes he’s seriously ill which just shows the level of abuse inflicted on him :(.

  3. notSupermum says:

    It’s a terrible thing to have happened to that young boy, and at the hands of his own mother too. I work at a primary school and we used to have a boy whose mother was always in the school telling us how ill he was, how he was violent at home (he was a very shy, meek boy) how he needed special magnifying equipment because of his poor eyesight, and how he had several illnesses. We had to call in several experts because of her demands, and when he had his eyes tested he had better eyesight than one of the teachers. He was seen by educational psychologists, who concluded that he was a stable, intelligent boy who was overprotected. He has since left our school to go onto secondary school but we heard recently that he is now using a white stick to get around the school, at his mother’s insistence, and occasionally turns up for school in a wheelchair. It seems his mother is trying her luck with the new school. She, in turn, walks with the aid of a stick, but I recently saw her in a shopping centre running up the escalators in order to catch a bus. Funny that.

  4. mummy bear says:

    Thank you for the post. It’s such a sad, sad case. I just cannot understand how she got away with it, despite so many doctors seeing the child. It takes a very deceptive and hungry mind to be so deceitful. I just hope that there is someone in this little boys life that will be able to show him love and trust

  5. TheMadHouse says:

    This really upset me and actually made me very very mad indeed. It has been a very horrible week what with this and those two boys who tried to murder two children. Vile indeed. Some people are just born evil

  6. Josie says:

    Was talking to my dad today about this, and our frustration with cases like this where there seems to be such a failing on the part of authorities to intervene before so much damage is done. It’s a sad truth that some people are just not fit to be parents. These parents don’t need to be helped, or supported, it’s just not going to make a blind bit of difference. The children need to be safe, more than anything else they need to be protected. And so often this just doesn’t seem to happen. Makes me so sad and SO angry 🙁

  7. Tanya (Bump2Basics) says:

    I also first thought this woman must have Munchausen’s by Proxy but then learned how truly sadistic and greedy she was. That poor little boy; hopefully he will now have the help, support and love he needs to put this early chapter of his life behind him. Although it did take some time for this woman to be caught out, in light of the myriad of social services failings in the media of late it’s encouraging that she was pursued and found out by authorities before things went even further.

  8. Stella says:

    This story made me very sad. That poor child has gone through hell in his short life. It is more than just pretending – he has had numerous surgeries and countless invasive tests, but the emotional scars may last a lot longer. It is a pity that he can’t be told his mother did it because she was sick, it might have been easier for him to cope with in later life. And yet social services will remove a breastfeeding baby from his mother at 4 days old just because she is perceived as being not very intelligent:(

  9. Mags (@mmeeee) says:

    This story totally shocked me – I find it hard to believe a mother could do this to her child. It is heartbreaking if a child is sick let alone has to undergo surgery yet she forced this on her son and even let him have an unnecessary operation. I just can’t fathom what was going on in her mind and the poor child – I hope he will be able to start living a somewhat normal life after what he has had to endure.

  10. Crystal Jigsaw says:

    It is quite unbelievable isn’t it, something we find hard to comprehend as loving parents. My husband just kept saying she needs to be in a psychiatric hospital, but it really beggars belief that a human being can be that greedy, cruel and deceitful. CJ xx

  11. Heather says:

    Every time I hear about this or read something about it I want to cry. That poor little child. It breaks my heart to think of people being used and abuse this way, or any way. i wish I could just gather them all up and look after them, protect them from the cruelties of the world. Damn it, i’m welling up again.

  12. Dan says:

    Munchausen’s by Proxy is a personality disorder, and as such it isn’t an excuse for her actions. she had capacity and therefore choice in her actions, and so should get the full weight of the law on her head. How useful medicalising things like this is is debatable anyway.

  13. Mummy's Litte Monkey says:

    It’s impossible to imagine what compels a mum to abuse her child so horrendously. I was doubly shocked to read NotSupermum’s comment about the similar case she knows of. These women are not fit to be called mothers.


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