Kids or Teenagers?

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I went to a kids’ party at the weekend. And when I say kids I mean a bunch of 7 year olds. Yet when I got there I was amazed at just who some of the kids were channelling.

Well, actually I wasn’t amazed that some of the kids wanted to look like certain ‘icons’ because my 4 year old also loves Lady Ga Ga, Beyonce and Cheryl Cole. What’s more I’m not too old to remember that at six I also loved raunchy pop stars way above my age range.

What I was amazed at was how many parents had given in to pester power and allowed their girls to wear make up, and wear fairly sexy clothing (boob tubes, mini skirts and thigh high socks anyone) at what was essentially a playground party.

 

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With so much in the news about the sexualisation of children and David Cameron banging on about summoning advertisers, broadcasters, magazine editors, and music industry chiefs to a summit on this in October, am I wrong in saying he’s targeting the wrong people? 

“No”, says one mum friend who says she can’t bear for her 10 year old daughter to “hate” her and fight with her, so would prefer for decisions over clothing and music to be made by someone else.

I think she’s wrong because surely as parents it’s up to us to lay down rules and limitations not the government? I’m no fan of padded bikinis for 7 year olds but it doesn’t bother me because there is no way I would ever let my daughter near one.

And yes I know my daughter thinks I’m horrible because I won’t let her wear bright pink nail varnish or have shoes with heels but that’s life. It’s the same argument/fight/sulk I had with my own mother over the years about high heels, short skirts, earrings and tattoos, not to mention make up. Which is maybe why it doesn’t bother me. As my mother says “It’s a thankless task being the rule maker. But someone’s got to do it.”

Anita

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5 Responses to Kids or Teenagers?

  1. Tattie weasle says:

    I am a parent not a best mate – those are the words I have to remember. My job is to teach my kids so that they can go out into society as confidently and compassionately as possible and contribute to the world around them. If I land up being a good friend when they are grown up tHen I will count my blessings. Harsh I know but being a parent is about being responsible and basically being a grown up not being a kid and playing all the time.

  2. Tattie weasle says:

    I am a parent not a best mate – those are the words I have to remember. My job is to teach my kids so that they can go out into society as confidently and compassionately as possible and contribute to the world around them. If I land up being a good friend when they are grown up tHen I will count my blessings. Harsh I know but being a parent is about being responsible and basically being a grown up not being a kid and playing all the time.

  3. SarahJane says:

    No I think Davis Cameron is wrong in calling a summit over this I think its high time. I seriously think standards of parenting are slipping. Parents are so concerned about getting along with their daughters that they dont worry that they are becoming sexualised. Children should be innocent and appear so not like small hookers. I understand that young girls want to follow trends but you can find a compromise so they can still be fashionable without sending them out dressed like sluts. In my opinion any parent that does this is a bad parent. They dont care about putting their children at risk from paedophiles, about them being more likely to be abused or even abducted and killed they leave them open to such things and by dressing their children provocatively they are also encouraging the sexual behaviour that goes with it at a young age. I think its a crying shame when it has got to the point where the government has to tell parents how to dress their kids because parents cant be bothered to parent.

  4. Anita Anita says:

    I agree. It’s totally up to us as parents to lay down limitations. You can’t be their best friend and their mum. My kids have plenty of friends but only one mother who will hopefully teach them that certain things aren’t appropriate at 4, 7, 13 and even 16!

  5. Laurie-Toronto says:

    I am a parent of 2 teenage girls. I understand that a parent wants to be a friend…but that NEVER works. Kids have to have rules and there comes a time when you must be forceful with your beliefs. If you are a friend, they will never believe you are serious. At the end of the day…they will ALWAYS choose their friends over you even if you are super lenient and give in. Wait until they are in their 20s, they will WANT to be your friend. Until then, love them a lot but make sure they know who is boss or they will walk all over you and you will have a monster on your hands.

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