Maternal instinct

Jun 24 • Featured • 971 Views • 6 Comments on Maternal instinct

The other day one of my friends was talking about how she would like another baby – a brother or sister for her three boys. 'Why don't you adopt?' asked another friend, a mum of two who works in social services. 'There are so many needy children out there who need homes, it's heartbreaking.'

She's right, of course, and when you're a mum you do feel guilty that your child should have so much love and security when other children have nothing.

That's why I can, in a way, understand Madonna's urge to adopt Mercy James. When you're so rich it must feel natural to want to spread the wealth.

Two of my friends were adopted because their birth parents were unfit/unwilling to care for them, and they've definitely had much better lives as a result.

But I'm growing increasingly uncomfortable with the way the adoption has been handled. Someone as powerful as Madonna could surely adopt in private, as the actor Ewan McGregor did a few years ago. And I'd also like to know why it wasn't possible for Madonna to go and and bring Mercy back to the UK herself – reportedly sending a nanny and an entourage of staff.

A few years ago another Hollywood A-lister, the actress Jamie Lee Curtis, an adoptive mum of two, wrote the children's book 'Tell Me Again About The Night I Was Born' (available from Waterstones). Of course, being written by an American film star, it's a bit sugary and sentimental, but it does include some genuinely touching moments, including the sentence, 'tell me again how you carried me like a china doll all the way home.'

One look at the bewildered expression on little Mercy's face tells you she's as fragile and precious as a china doll. I do hope she's happy in her new home.

written by Liz Jarvis


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6 Responses to Maternal instinct

  1. Half Mum Half Biscuit says:

    I’ve given your post in the British Mummy Bloggers Carnival a mention over at mine cos I liked it so much.

  2. jackie says:

    i agrie with addoption if u can help an u want whats best for u both thats good .i htik she has a lot off passion an cares a lot .i would addpot a certian child in romania if i could x

  3. sally Brockway says:

    I think Mercy should stay where her relatives and her roots are.

  4. Sam says:

    The thing for me about adoption is that it has to be about the child and not the person doing the adopting. It’s not good being a do-gooder when it comes to adoption. As every parent know a child needs love and nurture – not fame and fortune. I met a lady in the supermarket today who took one look at my little girl and said she wanted to adopt her – can’t blame her for that! But there was real meaning in her apparently flippant comment. She went on to tell me that her children were unable – one financially and the other physically to have children. Yet she still longed to have grandchildren – even if it was to care for, love and nurture someone elses…and that’s really ALL a child needs.

  5. catherine says:

    Madonna does not care for the children she adopts in the real sense of the word. She hands them to nannys while she continues with touring and working and courting the media. Children who have been adopted need consistency and love, not a life where they don’t know whether mummy will be coming back again soon.

  6. bibbly bobbly says:

    might be better to just throw lots of money at the adoption centre if she wants to help out somehow.


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