Slugs and snails… is raising boys really easier than bringing up girls?

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Yesterday one of my friends said something which really surprised me. ‘It’s much more difficult raising girls,’ she said. ‘With boys, you don’t have to worry about things like pregnancy.’

Well, apart from the fact boys probably do worry about things like pregnancy when they’re old enough to understand that actions have consequences, I think this is nonsense.

Raising boys comes with its own set of problems – as they grow up, they’re probably more vulnerable to dangers outside the home, for example, like fights and random attacks.

And I would say both boys and girls are equally at risk of bullying and stranger danger.

But maybe I’m wrong. What do you think?

written by Liz Jarvis


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12 Responses to Slugs and snails… is raising boys really easier than bringing up girls?

  1. Sara says:

    Raising children is hard work regardless of their sex. Responsibility for their actions need to be taught to both boys and girls. Girls are know for their high emotions and this can be hard work. Boys are known for lack of communication which can be just as bad. Parenthood is the most important job in the world so it’s never going to be easy. Just enjoy it xxx

  2. JulieB says:

    I am a mother of 2 girls, so don’t have a "direct"comparison. However I personally believe that being a parent is diffficult, full stop. The issues and concerns might be different, but it does not mean one is easier than the other!

  3. Brit In Bosnia says:

    Gah, I can feel my blood pressure rising. Boys and girls are both difficult and both total joys. I don’t have a girl to compare to, but there are positives and negatives in both stereotypes. Boys are more straightforward but have more energy and are more destructive, likely to fight. They are not going to get pregnant but they are more likely to hurt themselves doing stupid things because their mates egged them on – not for nothing that teenage boys are the highest fatality rates when it comes to car accidents. Girls are more communicative and likely to sit down and concentrate, do better at school but people say the teenage years are more difficult. Either way, you can have a girly boy or boysy girl and the whole stereotyping thing goes out the window. Like the others have said parenting is hard, really hard, but really enjoyable. There is no easier or harder sex. I’m not surprised you found that comment surprising.

  4. Erica says:

    I don’t worry about pregnancy, life goes on after all. Pregnancy seems to be this huge issue when really if it happens you just need to get on with it. You can give them all the preparation and education in the world but sometimes it’s gonna happen anyway. I’m more worried about safety when my daughter is a teenager and wants to stay out late.

  5. Laura says:

    Swings and roundabouts … I think. I have one of each and I find my relationship with my daughter far more emotional than my son. I think he is more straightforward emotionally. Having said that … he is the one that causes me the most heart stopping, buttock clenching, moments because he has no fear and only one speed. She is far more studious, sensible and we have a shared love of all things booklike.

  6. notSupermum says:

    I have two girls, so nothing to compare to but parenting is just difficult anyway isn’t it? I suppose the fears for my girls are around personal safety when they’re out, and being in abusive relationships. I try my best to give them guidance, but what do I know I’m just their mum! Thankfully they are both very sensible girls so I hope that’ll stand them in good stead when they venture into the wider world without me.

  7. muummmeeeee! says:

    I think you’re absolutely right. Raising a child is not easy, whether it’s a boy or a girl and I certainly don’t think bringing up one is easier than the other. With both sexes you have the worry of teenage sex, succumbing to drugs/alcohol/cigarettes, bullying etc. Girls are more vulnerable to unwanted male attention and boys are more likely to be involved in fights. The dangers our sons and daughters face while growing up may differ slightly but protecting and guiding them through their teenage years is equally challenging.

  8. Crystal Jigsaw says:

    I think raising a girl is hard enough; the pressure that comes with puberty and adolescence is mind blowing, and that’s just for the parent. I don’t know about raising boys. I have 2 nephews but they have always been model boys. If there is such a thing. CJ xx

  9. ClutterFairy says:

    I have two boys and a girl. I worry about the external influences with my daughter – other girls and the psychological games sometimes bordering on bullying. The boys are more straightforward. Friends come and go with my son- no big deal, but the chances of getting into fights etc is a real worry. My oldest son and daughter are poles apart in personality though. Parenting is hard – you just have to keep chipping way at it!

  10. Expat Mum says:

    I have a teen boy and a teen girl (plus 6 year old boy). Neither is easy but my house is completely bashed up because of the boys. Dings in the walls, handrails hanging off etc. They’re like bulls in a china shop. Girls between the ages of 11-14 can be really mean to each other and that caused a lot of anguish in our house. The boys, less so, although they can do some bloody stupid things – like trying out chemical experiements in large wheelie bins, causing neighbours to call the police. That kind of thing!

  11. Nat says:

    Mine are only nearly 4 and nearly 2 but so far my son is a breeze compared to his sister. She really scares me as to what she might be like as a teenager, it’s like she’s not related to us lol, whereas my son is like myself and my husband very relaxed and routine etc. Time will tell!

  12. Karen Sherr says:

    As a Mum of 2 boys (both at University) and a daughter (in 6th form) I can say that bringing them up has been both really easily and really difficult at times. The boys are more physical and boisterious but in a way are more straightforward. I’ve found girls to be more whiny and whinge more. Girls seem to have more difficulty with their friends – teenage girls can be so bitchy! I can honestly say I wouldn’t be happy for any of my children to become a parent yet – there’s no way I feel ready to be a Grandma! I would hope that I’ve brought all my children up to be responsible and if my boys make their girlfriends pregnant that would affect me as it would if my daughter was pregnant. I really don’t think there is an easier sex to bring up. All children are different and each one brings their own challenges and rewards.


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